Friday, 1 July 2016

Last day with Ruth


Owe has his last day at work today. I woke him up and we had breakfast together. It took me a while to go to sleep yesterday, I was tossing. My mind just did not settle, but I could not think clearly. I tried meditation techniques, that did not work either. Finally I took some pain medication, that helped me sleep. I had to clean myself. I sat with mum while she had breakfast. She wanted to go into town by herself, just walk and experience it. I went to the gym and went to the Center for lunch, then Sabine and I came to yoga. We went for a drink afterwards. I felt I needed some space from mum. Yesterday and the day before we talked so much, and I have to re-think a few things. Sabine noticed I was on edge and was able to convince me to not force it. Just let my memories and impressions of this week settle and deal with it later. I am trying!

Mum was at home when I came back, she had started to pack. I joined her. We agreed that it was time for her to go home, we both have to digest everything. She said she has learned things about herself. That she can be an independent woman. That she still has a life of her own. She is not only a widow and grandmother, she is Ruth. Wow. She wants to hold a memorial service for Dad on his anniversary. She would like me to be there. I have to think about that. For one, it is very far to travel. Owe will be working. It is in August, so holiday season. Usually the doctors with children have priority for holidays then. And we are expecting BandE in September. Owe came home, he found Mum and me lying on the bed, reminiscing – again. He said later to me we looked so comfortable together. He was happy for us. It must have been hard for him, he lost his mum so early. And he is so estranged from his father. We went to the pizza place for dinner and had some wine. Mum mentioned she would like us to come in August. Owe was quite positive about it. But we will have to see.

I am nervous about tomorrow. Mum said she will take a taxi to the airport, she does not want a long goodbye. Maybe it is better.


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